A client has suffered from skin disease since the age of 10. On asking about her skin issue, she shared that it made her feel disgusting. And she could not allow anyone to touch it. It was hard for her to believe that a part of her did not look nice. When she was asked why it was so important for her to be nice, she replied as a child she observed that only those kids who appeared perfect received appreciation from her parents. So, if there was something that was not, so-called- “nice” about her, always made her feel that there is something wrong with her. She came up with all those incidents in her life where she was asked to change her attitude or behavior to look perfect in front of others. Further down the session, she realized that all she needed was to let go of her childhood conditioning to look nice all the time and accept herself with her flaws. And once she did that, her skin issue stopped bothering her. It started to heal. It’s been more than 6 months now since her skin issue has been resolved.
Some mothers had given up their careers to look after their children/family. Some felt underconfident and not appreciated enough. Many confronted that they were not satisfied with the way they were bringing up their children.
One such mother realized that her own emotional needs were not fulfilled which made her irritable with her children. Another mother realized that she used to feel very judged when her child misbehaved and hence, she used to try and control her child even more. This made the child’s behavior even worse.
One more mother felt she was unable, to begin with, a career because she felt nobody would take care of her children the way she did. On unfolding her emotions, she realized that she carried a belief from her childhood that no one should feel troubled because of her, hence she felt she was troubling others (even her spouse or a hired maid) if she was choosing to leave her children with them.
When we come across a disturbing memory, itcreates a disruption in our body system which results in negative emotion.This negative emotion causes stress and invites illness in our bodies. A lot oftimes, we also form beliefs when we experience unpleasant incidents. EFT helpsto clear out all these negative emotions and beliefs which create blockages inour system and in our thought patterns. Clinical studies have shown that EFT isvery effective in relieving stress.
And so, she was not able to take any actions for her own self. When these mothers worked on their emotional needs, they were more aware of their behaviors. And hence they were more mindful while dealing with their children.
It is amazing how healing our emotional traumas and limiting beliefs makes it simple for us to accept ourselves and our situation. It helps us recover from physical and mental stress. And in turn, makes us open to new possibilities.
EFT is a process and requires multiple sessions and due reciprocation from the patient.
